She is loved for her smile
She is loved for her innocence
She is loved for her kindness
She is loved for her beauty.
Yet she waits for being loved for her invisible scars
that makes her truly beautiful.
In this ever-evolving world, I believe that the idea of a perfect life lie in imperfection. And that the desire to achieve a state of static perfection is superficial.
A life reduced to perfectly regular order, with perfect predictability, would be no life at all.
Order, symmetry and regularity are fine as far as they go, but there seems to be something in human nature that rejects the rigidity of perfect order and craves the poetry that comes when things are just a little out of balance.
“Imperfection is in some sort of essential to all that we know in life.” – John Ruskin.
Striving for perfection is not the same as trying to do the best you can. While to try your best is an attempt to make the most of your potential, trying for perfection is an attempt to meet goals and ideals that have no set definition. Even if you are able to score a perfect goal in a game, there could still be something lacking in your technique. You can always do everything in a better way, and if that is so, nothing can be perfect. What is perfect to you, may not be perfect to another.
And who is to judge anyway? When you do the best you can, the only judge you are submitting to is yourself. However, when you strive for perfection, you lay yourself open to judgement from the whole world. And yet, we all want to be perfect humans, perfect spouses, perfect parents, perfect professionals and strive for perfect home and perfect lives. Continuously measuring yourself against an unachievable ideal can have a negative impact and probably reverse the possibility of becoming a better person. Such an attempt would leave one frustrated and dissatisfied, far from the state of contentment that is considered a prerequisite for happiness.
As it is said, you inspire others by how you deal with your imperfections but not by being perfect. The imperfections surround us in nearly every direction and in all phases. The world we live in, the people around us and unfortunately, we ourselves are far from being perfect. But this can be good news too. All you need to do is welcome your flaws and realise the wholeness of your being.
So, let’s begin with it…
Embrace your flaws. This is where the ability to help others lives.
Know that you possess a combination of qualities. What you regard as limitations might be a good fortune clothed as adversity and yet when applied correctly can transform your life. So, accept yourself completely. Instead of bringing attention to your weaknesses, view them as gifts to transform into the wholeness of your being. It’s pointless striving to become someone you’re not. To maintain a façade over time is exhausting and strips you of your authentic self. We are not attracted to others because of their virtues; their wholeness of character is what resonates with us most. Its human nature to measure ourselves against others, though we need not subjugate our self-worth.
Perfection is an unattainable ambition. In order to accept your imperfections, cease trying to satisfy others. The more you aim to please; the less people will identify with you because people pleasing is a powerless state. Instead, be vulnerable as it allows you to embrace your imperfections because you communicate the same intention to others, who can help you overcome them and vice versa. It shows your humanness.
Embrace your flaws. You may be weathered and worn, tattered and torn, battered and bruised, but you are not broken. Know that you’ve become perfectly imperfect. – Jay Long.
Savour your inadequacy. This is where the inspiration lives.
See yourself as a masterpiece beyond your shortcomings. Your imperfections summon you to exercise self-compassion with your inner critic. Don’t abandon yourself when the inner critic judges your imperfections. See it as an opportunity to love and accept the disapproving part of you, instead of waging war. With concentrated attention, you can reframe your inner dialogue to be more affirming. Honour your feelings and use them to examine what inflames your emotions. In this way, you transform your inner dialogue to reaffirm your wholeness instead of focusing on your separateness.
Perfection is not the answer if you aspire to attain inner peace. It will lead you further astray because you strive to change aspects of yourself you’re unhappy with. Gratitude, however, opens the doorway to acceptance and a heart-centred focus. Your imperfections are based on an illusory perception that highlights only one facet of your being.
To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. – Tich Nhat Hanh.
Enjoy your imperfect life. This is where the happiness lives.
When you can let go, when you can stop judging, when you can stop focusing on the imperfections, you can begin to let yourself be happy. And isn’t that kind of important in your life, being happy?
Happiness begins when you let go. When you allow life to happen, instead of trying to control it, you begin to become free. In that freedom, it is so much easier to find happiness than it is when you try to force things. So, relax, and allow life to have its little imperfections.
If you are constantly striving for perfection, you’re doing more than most. However, if you’re expecting perfection, you will likely be miserable, as few things in life are ever even remotely close to perfect.
Remember that life is not perfect. It never has been and it never will be. It means we can stop chasing the perfect skin, the perfect job, the perfect house or the perfect spouse. It means we can find freedom to live within our imperfections. So, stop pursuing the mystical, perfect life… as light can only be appreciated when it gets dark. And when we learn to fully embrace both its beauty as well as its weakness, we create the opportunity to live victoriously.
Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It Means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections. – Unknown
The greatest excitement of life is in development and progress. If one were to even achieve the unachievable and become perfect, it would wipe out all excitement and anticipation from life. In contemporary times, when we talk of perfection, we do not think of it in terms of ethical, moral or social good. It is more in connection with the self, in perfecting ourselves and being several notches above the rest. It is a pursuit that doesn’t just leave one frustrated but takes away all present pleasures as well.
Truly, in our imperfection lies the greatest perfection.
Thank you for reading!!!
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